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4 actions to cultivate your serenity

4 actions to cultivate your serenity

The serenity is certainly an important ingredient of our lives.

Right now more than ever.

It affects:

  • our personality
  • the experiences we have
  • the environment in which we live

in every possible facet.

Your serenity depends on many variables, here are 4 to get started

It’s not easy, it’s a path, a workout, but these 4 factors are in your margin of action, enough to start – as in everything – even a tiny step.

# 1. Work on your mindfulness

Being present to yourself means training to use your concentration .

How many times have you been told as a child: “Concentrate!”?

You probably felt wrong: you were given an order or made a criticism, but you had no idea how to improve yourself from that point of view.

The result could also be a lived experience of frustration and inadequacy.

Then think about the effects on your learning at school for example.

How much time could you have saved if you knew how to concentrate?

Ok, the past does not change, but the present and the future do.

The positive effects of mindfulness meditation  have been established for years in the scientific field.

This tool trains you to develop greater awareness about

  • thoughts
  • emotions
  • behaviors.

Cultivating your serenity through the development of mental presence will allow you to be more free, releasing yourself from excessive thought aimlessly, becoming more aware of your automatisms over time.

#2. Set limits on the demands you make on yourself

It is shocking to see how devastating your self-destructive energy can be.

How can you be calm if what you do is never enough?

It’s impossible.

You will always feel something missing inside you and this will have a profound effect on your serenity.

Having your limits clear doesn’t mean giving up on your personal growth at all .

Rather.

Setting limits on your goals will allow you to

  • celebrate your victories
  • self-motivate
  • see your value more clearly.

 

# 3. Know where you are going in reference to your goals

How often in life do you turn on autopilot without realizing it?

This problem is clearer by reasoning in terms of time, particularly in the long term.

It may not be a wise choice to enroll in a faculty that you don’t like, but which according to statistics could allow you to work before the one you would choose “with the heart”.

There is nothing more difficult than doing something we hate doing.

Yet many people every day practice – more or less consciously – choices that could potentially make them unhappy for life.

Why?

To please parents.

To earn more.

To feel socially respected.

The little problem is the following: climbing a mountain in itself is difficult, how will you feel when you reach the top and realize that you wanted to go elsewhere?

Not well.

So if you want to cultivate your serenity don’t forget that listening to yourself, your uniqueness, your talent, is the only way, and also the most beautiful, because it will be yours and that of no one else.

 

# 4. Understand your recurring ways of relating to each other

This point is really very important.

Our primary relationships influence the rest of our lives.

We have certain patterns of behavior in relationships and from a certain point of view we could not grow differently than we are today.

However, what always makes it possible to change the relational models that make us suffer  is the fact that we can become aware of them and this is the process that allows us to get out of behavior patterns that have been acting for decades and that generate suffering.