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Covid19 and lovers

Covid19 and lovers

There is a phenomenon which, in the likeness of illegal work, is greatly underestimated and whose protagonists, precisely because they are denied and unknown, are paying a very high price for the current pandemic: that of lovers.

 

Advertising message If the whole country is suffering, it is above all the weaker groups that suffer the consequences and the gap between rich and poor widens. When the overall wealth increases, it is above all the middle and upper middle classes that take advantage of it and the gap between rich and poor widens which reminds me of a poorly refined saying about the final destination of a certain cucumber of an unidentified gardener (similar thing happens with the price of oil: whether OPEC increases it or collapses to historic lows, the effect is always an increase in the price of fuel at the pump). Only death seems to be truly an impartial “level” although the treatments that precede it in an attempt to postpone it or make it sweeter are not at all leveled. The government has taken and will take further measures for those most affected by the slowdown in the economy, small self-employed workers, precarious young people, VAT numbers who risk not being able to shop despite the grocery stores are open. Even more troubled are the so-called “undeclared workers” who represent a large portion of the country’s GDP but are nowhere to be found and therefore are not even easily accessible from any subsidies because for the State and INPS they simply do not exist. Perhaps it will be the occasion for yet another tax amnesty but it is welcome if this huge and removed problem of undeclared work finally emerges out of nowhere, a huge cushion between recognized and taxed work and unemployment. There is another phenomenon which, similar to illegal work, it is greatly underestimated and whose protagonists, precisely because they are denied and unknown, are paying a very high price for the current pandemic. The phenomenon is that of adultery and its undeclared workers without rights and acknowledgments are suddenly “lovers”, alienated from their usual meeting places (especially work) and locked up in a domestic captivity where also the tools of communication on the web they are requisites for the benefit of the little ones for school lessons or for more institutional greetings and contacts with lonely grandparents and distant relatives. You could argue that the phenomenon is quantitatively irrelevant instead it is exactly as for COVID19 where the ascertained positives are a tiny subset of the real positives which are therefore potentially and unknowingly vectors of contagion.

For the French Court of Cassation, infidelity is no longer an act against morality, as it writes in 2015: “with the evolution of habits as well as moral concepts, to date it is no longer possible to consider marital infidelity as in contrast with the common representation of morality in contemporary society “. Infidelity is therefore no different from any other form of freedom of expression and will soon no longer be considered one of the causes justifying a divorce.

At the same time, the data released by “Gleeden.com”, the largest dating site dedicated to married women looking for dating, tells us that in Italy during the entire existence of a couple: 30% remain forever faithful, in 40 % of cases one of the two partners cheats while in the remaining 30% both cheat and therefore in 70% of cases couples experience a situation of single or double treason.

According to data collected on a European basis by IFOP (French public opinion institute) 45% of Italians said they had cheated on their partner at least once against 43% in France, 39% in Spain and 36% in the Gran Britain. Even more interesting than the facts for us psychologists are the opinions we have about the facts and research tells us that when asked “did you regret cheating on your partner?” only 27% of Italians answered yes against 73% of no. And once again the percentage is the highest in Europe (France and Germany 28%, Spain 36% and Great Britain 50%). But what moral value do Italians give to infidelity? What appears particularly interesting is not only the intense practice of adultery but the fact that a change in the common morality is underway, which is why we increasingly tend to consider it acceptable. According to a research conducted on a global scale by the American Pew Research our country appears much more secular than we think: if it is true that 64% of Italians think that infidelity is morally unacceptable, the percentage is still among the most low in the world. In the United States, for example, 84% publicly condemn treason, as do 76% of the British and only 47% of the French and 60% of the Germans. if it is true that 64% of Italians think that infidelity is morally unacceptable, the percentage is still among the lowest in the world. In the United States, for example, 84% publicly condemn treason, as do 76% of the British and only 47% of the French and 60% of the Germans. if it is true that 64% of Italians think that infidelity is morally unacceptable, the percentage is still among the lowest in the world. In the United States, for example, 84% publicly condemn treason, as do 76% of the British and only 47% of the French and 60% of the Germans.

Still IFOP data tell us that for 56% of Italians you can be in love with your partner and still betray him. An in-depth study of the study entirely dedicated to Italy as the home of Catholicism revealed that for 63% of Italians it is entirely possible to love two people at the same time, with 21% of the interviewees who revealed a stable and lasting relationship with their lover. against 41% of occasional adventures; 43% of infidels expect to be forgiven by their partner if they are found out.

Compared to the times of treason, the IPSOS survey states that 35% of respondents said they had given in to treason after the 5th year of marriage, 30% between the 2nd and 5th years. For 20% a year of loyalty was more than enough, while 15% lasted only 3 months.

1565 Italians, men and women, married and aged between 24 and 64 were interviewed on their extramarital affairs. These are the detailed results:

In the first year of marriage: the infidelity rate is 27% for men and 21% for women. There is however to consider that among those who betray already in the first year there is a 35% who had been unfaithful at least once even in the years of engagement.

In the 2nd and 3rd year of marriage: the gap between male and female infidelity increases. 36% of men versus 11% of women. Generally this is the period in which the first child is born, a new situation often experienced in a diametrically opposite way by the two partners: the women, taken by the newcomer, neglect a little the husband who is thus forced to take refuge in someone else’s arms (or at least that’s the cliché and the classic excuse used to justify yourself!).

Between the 3rd and the 9th year of marriage: the rate of infidelity grows exponentially and there are no greater differences between men and women. 58% of male respondents confessed to one or more betrayals, for women the percentage is 46%.

From the 9th to the 25th year, infidelity becomes “serial”: treason is now a routine for 49% of the interviewed men and for 36% of the women.

After the 25th year of marriage: the infidelity rate is only 13%. Obviously the fact is probably due to an age factor.

Italy presents strong contradictions between practice, which sees it as the most unfaithful country in Europe, and theory, still showing itself in the balance between secular claims and a still strongly Catholic heritage.

In fact, 76% of Italians said that remaining faithful for life is possible and the response is transversal to any age group, religion and political orientation.

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What Italians cannot accept when it comes to infidelity is the manifestation of its purely sexual side: among the acts that constitute a source of treason, in fact, there are kissing a French person other than the partner (77%), having oral relations (89 %), up to the actual sexual intercourse, whether it is a momentary episode (89%) or a regular practice (92%). Falling in love with another person is good for you, as long as love remains platonic and does not translate into something more physical.

An incontrovertible fact for both the United States and Europe is that women have reached and very often overcome men in the tendency to betray and that the previous differences that men wanted to betray for sexual reasons and for occasional relationships while women for sentimental reasons and for deeper and longer relationships are no longer current and the differences in the type of betrayal do not concern the gender but the individual personality. An important stereotype that wanted men interested in one thing therefore seems to have been overcome in the name of achieved gender equality. All these researches are based on interviews of the interested parties who can however lie and tendentially in a single direction, the negationist one.

In conclusion, one child out of 5 (20%) is not of the legitimate father. I think it is reasonable to assume that this percentage is much higher among abortions as such outcome, voluntary or otherwise, is a much greater risk in an adulterous pregnancy. Finally, if we consider that not all sexual intercourse involves pregnancy, especially if it is a question of non-permitted sexual intercourse, one can have an estimate of how many intercourse take place in non-institutional couples. In the homosexual world then, both male, as has always been affirmed in the name of the aforementioned prejudice that saw that the male always sex-oriented, and female, both free from the risk of pregnancy, the percentage of occasional or prolonged betrayals is certainly greater. Life as a lover although, it would seem,

For lovers, the holidays and generally the holidays have always been black periods because the needs of the families of origin predominate, the lunches you can not miss, the absolute sharing of 24 hours with spouses, previous generations and offspring and even the search for silent solitude without hidden purposes is stigmatized as guilty desertion from the festive regulation to find oneself. Now we are in a very painful moment in which the love lockout from the pandemic risks, not being an essential productive activity without even the defense of Renzi, to pass directly into the summer holidays on which, from good Italians motivated to restart at least internal tourism, we will invest until the last euro. In partial confirmation of the above, since the start of the lockdown measures, pharmacies report a collapse in the sale of condoms offset by an increase in the consumption of anxiolytics. The associations of “anonymous lovers”, in concert with the various LGBT representations, which unite gather around 85% of the world of love in black (the very powerful but even more secret congregations and brotherhoods for the so-called “disordered love” remain excluded in cassock which, however, have the opportunity to assert their pressure in the right places sensitive to ecclesial support) have proposed to the government a series of urgent measures (a decalogue) so that the world of love in black does not stop completely with dramatic consequences also on the supply chain (florists, luxury gifts, hotels, motels and small outlets):

PS: it is quite clear, I hope, that most of the things overwritten are of the bullshit, but not the epidemiological data. Assuming it is a disease, because in this case we will have to talk about a further hidden pandemic. Meditiamoci.

Of course, let alone! This certainly does not concern your beautiful little family. If anything, at most, that of your neighbor. It is a pity that he thinks exactly the same thing and it is perhaps for this reason that when you meet he looks at you with that demented smile that however knows a lot.