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Managing anxiety and uncertainty ahead of autumn

Managing anxiety and uncertainty ahead of autumn

Autumn is upon us and with it fears for the future reappear , including at work, which affect self-confidence and the quality of emotional relationships, fueling the fear of not succeeding more and more . With the return from holidays, the uncertainties for the future reappear. Between fear and sadness, which resources to activate?

This short article was born with a dual purpose: to make it clear that the psychologist’s work is essentially based on the discovery and activation of inner emotional resources that allow you to overcome moments of difficulty and crisis (family, school, work, couple relationships, etc. ) and, at the same time, helping people to investigate their own experiences in order to transform sequestering emotions such as sadness and fear into joy and enthusiasm.

Manage fears, anxieties and worries to open up to the world with confidence and serenity

With the return from vacation, after the traumatic experience of covid-19 which has seen our fundamental freedoms stolen for several weeks, it is easy to feel sensations related to fear of what has happened and uncertainty for tomorrow emerge.

The lack of long-term prospects, the fear for the future fueled by the painful memory of what happened this winter , can create in people the painful sensation of feeling closed off every way to go and, that every step, risks being taken with looking back in constant doubt about the direction to take.

The sense of powerlessness, the perception of ineffectiveness towards oneself and towards one’s own choices risks creating the conviction of having to surrender to the evidence , or rather to stop and give up desiring and choosing. The risk is to convince yourself that you are no longer free, deprived of responsibility towards the most important mandate: to fulfill yourself and be happy.

The result is a strong disappointment towards oneself and the ability to react by creating a strong suffering also dictated by monothematic and redundant thoughts that tend to become absolute, or to permeate every aspect of our life: so much is everything useless, there will never be work , with my wife it will always go wrong, etc.

The disappointment towards oneself creates the conditions for everything around us to orient itself in such a way as to disappoint all expectations, creating the conviction of being doomed to unhappiness.

This way of approaching oneself can be changed by defusing the emotional springs that force one to live in a painful past (now non-existent) and in the anxiety for a future that does not yet exist, directing the energies towards the present, the only one able to restore the sense of subjective existence.

In my book “Integrated Bioenergetic Practices” I deal with the problems relating to the difficulty in reactivating inner resources , trying to use the body sphere as a search engine for all those blocks and tensions that prevent joy from emerging. Muscle tensions reflect unresolved psychological conflicts of which we are often poorly aware .

Working on tensions

Working on tension and relaxation through the breath and, above all, through the verbalization of what emerges in terms of physical sensations after specific expressive activities, allows you to be able to go and untie those problematic knots resulting from false beliefs about yourself and about the learned inability to not being able to act successfully, progressively dismantling the bars of the mental prison that we have been building around us over the years.

The work on self-limitations allows you to help expand self-awareness by  facilitating openness and willingness to welcome, therefore, it is possible to self-motivate with confidence to get out of self-limitations and the sense of helplessness to project oneself into the world and overcome the instinct of closure and self-folding.

Psychocorporeal and bioenergetic work helps to  reinforce a positive vision of oneself in order to reactivate the trust in personal resources that often remain crushed by the weight of worries or by the ghosts of a future perceived as threatening and hopeless.

What is proposed is a transformation process that can be built together, taking into account the needs and different age groups.

Examples

Adults : the meeting involves tackling the situation or problem related to disappointment, suffering, difficulty in acting , trying to focus attention on the emotional aspects that emerge, in order to frame the experiences in a perspective that allows a different reading of the facts. By doing so, it is possible to rediscover new resources and transform some emotions by awakening others.

The work is integrated, as previously mentioned, by some bioenergetics practices and therefore through the body, breath and gestural techniques it is possible to facilitate the body-mind connection, promote relaxation and greater awareness.

Children and adolescents : with the start of the new school year, amidst doubts and uncertainties for the new beginning , it is easy to emerge emotions linked to fear, but also to the sense of disappointment due to expectations and expectations that for some reason have not been met .

Many children or adolescents and above all those who, with special educational needs, feel that the perceived difficulties are greater than the resources put in place, can draw some food for thought from these meetings and become aware of their way of reacting in the face of situations perceived as stressful. and anxious, going to work on shame and the sense of learned helplessness .

The space made available, together with time, are an opportunity to meet oneself and unmask the manipulation and self-sabotage that, often and willingly, we tend to activate to our detriment. It is possible to defuse all this only through the desire and commitment to oneself to go and re-discover oneself.