Resilience: an ability to change
The term resilience is a specific term that belongs to the field of metallurgy and refers to the ability of the materials that are part of it, to resist impacts without damaging themselves, maintaining their adaptive qualities despite aggressive external agents.
In this sense, we could think of resilience in psychology, basically, as the ability to know how to transform a painful experience into a positive experience.
The term resilience derives from the Latin verb resilio, which means to bounce, to jump back. It indicates, in general, being resistant and strong to trauma, therefore the ability to face adversity and overcome the fractures they entail.
Logically, the term resilient extends to both individuals and an extended group of people. It is often used to indicate a subject capable of giving a positive impetus to his life, reaching important goals, despite the circumstances; instead, if we apply the term resilience to a group of people, it indicates the ability of a social group to collectively cope with traumatic events or natural catastrophes, adopting guidelines that allow the survival of the community. In both cases, surely, everyone’s skills are used in a multi-tasking version in order to give an optimal result to the situation to be faced.
In these cases, man reacts through an adaptive response, that is, stress, which consists of a set of both psychic and physical responses to events.
Often, as a synonym of resilience, the term resistance is used, but in reality it is used improperly, since the first refers to a quality added to one’s way of life, or to find solutions to imbalances, albeit not foreseen, making it a force personnel; instead we talk about resistance, when we insist on something that does not lead us to an improvement, therefore we try to take the same paths to feel reassured but not to evolve and explore our resources. Just when we draw on the resources that we didn’t know we had, our resilient abilities are activated, tracing an alternative to what would prove to be our only pain. After all, during our life cycle, events are not always positive,
The factors that are part of resilient people are manifold. Among these, we will be able to list:
So how do we go about being resilient without being completely absorbed by adversity?
We should learn every day that this skill, although an innate ability in some people, must be cultivated every day; we understand that everyday life is a double-edged sword, which proves to be our comfort zone but, at the same time, a frame too rigid to bring out our true skills. This framework is valid for all those events that involve a trauma to the subject, such as bereavements and abandonments, which require work of elaboration and restructuring of the self of enormous importance.
Improving communication, our interpersonal values and empathy can be an effective response to face hostile situations, because the choice is ours alone, whether to learn a definitive lesson, to train new coping strategies or abandon ourselves to ourselves, and then maybe find ourselves asking the same questions. This is why it is important to have our guide, in order not to sink into more serious pathologies, such as anxiety disorders, panic or depression.
Anxieties are, at the forefront, spies that communicate to us the sense of restlessness and the alternative life, perhaps more suited to our needs at that particular moment. This signal must also be listened to through emotional education, the good use of reading social media, which is to possess different keys to reading, and not only to read the writer’s point of view.
Resilience must be built thanks to the different opportunities that life offers us but to learn it on our skin and teach it to our children, someone must always set a good example.