The burden of being a woman

The burden of being a woman

You have to shave, you have to have your hair in place, you have to be loving, you have to keep the house tidy, you have to do a “feminine” job, you don’t have to swear, you don’t have to have cellulite, you have to dress sexy, but not too much, you have to having children.

No one dictates these rules openly , it is true, but society, people, imply them. Women know this. Women feel the weight of these precepts . Being a woman according to our culture is equivalent to being a string of “must” and “must not”. It is a culture that does not discount anyone, it is severe, competitive.

Let’s think about the physical aspect for a moment.

Physical aspect

The canons, the measures, are strictly connected to the feminine. The male correlative of the 90, 60, 90 in fact… does not exist. Unreachable canons, far from what a body really is in reality. Society wants to reduce being a woman to centimeters, kilos; in essence, by numbers . But this is only one problem, another, perhaps even more dramatic, is that now, alas, the idea is in force according to which one’s body image determines one’s value as a person .

Social media have also opened the doors to another phenomenon that sees a continuous “physical proposal”, through photographs, videos, and consequently for women the confrontation between themselves and other women is inevitable. Comparison which, however, is not on equal terms. The women of the web are actually images that do not correspond to reality, but are a public distortion of it. In fact, let’s not forget that what our eyes see from the screen is the result of probable retouching, artisans.

But can a person’s value really be traced back to the image alone? Is it not given by its history? From the ideas he has? From the thoughts it expresses? From his life experiences?

To say that aesthetics and one’s image are something not important would not be correct, after all, it is our business card. What is wrong, however, is to forget that  there is much more besides the body . Something that is not seen, unlike the body, and this is perhaps the reason why we often ignore its existence.

The accentuated focus on the body dimension makes physical appearance an element that is not always easy to incorporate into one’s identity. There are not a few discomforts that arise from a lack of acceptance of one’s physicality as well as a lack of acceptance of the self (and of more abstract aspects) can spill over onto one’s body. It is important to remember: in addition to the body there is much more.

Only through this awareness, the eye of the other will no longer be feared , there will no longer be the need to re-enter the demands of society if these are not in line with one’s own.

The professions

Being women very often means having to make your way into “worlds” that are manned by men. There are still professions for which, at the grammatical level, there is no female correlator, or if they exist, they are somewhat cacophonous (for example, a lawyer and a lawyer). However, this is not a linguistic problem, but a cultural one . There is an implicit message, which is that that thing “is not for women”.

Do you know the history of Aishoplan?

Aishoplan is the protagonist of a documentary, which later became a film. Its story became famous because it rebelled against a tradition of almost 2000 years, that of the hunters or rather, eagle trainers of Mongolia, which saw the activity of “hunter” to be exclusively of the male sex.

Well, despite all the resistance of her community, she followed in the footsteps of her father and brother, thus becoming the first female eagle hunter. However, this was not enough to see his achievement recognized.

If originally, the English film took the title of “The Eagle Huntress” in Italy it was translated with “The Princess and the Eagle”. Maybe simply because ” huntress ” didn’t sound right, or maybe because training eagles for hunting… is something for men.

The reason for this inaccurate translation, perhaps, will never be known, but we know that a “revolution” of this type was not enough to see Aishoplan recognized as what she really is, not a princess, but an eagle hunter / trainer .

Fortunately, it must be said that especially in our society, many conventions that are now obsolete are slowly crumbling. For this process to continue, you need to be women who don’t align. Women who intend to change the world… and people’s minds.