The four laws of spirituality to face life
We are constantly looking for an explanation, a logic that explains events and people we met in our life.
So many times in the therapy room, one happens to be asked why certain events have occurred.
We chase a ” why “, we dress as “victims”, as “executioners” … We wonder why we have not been able to do better or otherwise. Obsessed with control, by reason, by obtaining an explanation that puts us safe from future suffering .
To stop this whirlwind loop in which we risk falling with our patients, some simple principles can help us. They are known as the Four Spiritual Laws and are passed down as part of the millennial Indian culture. Let’s see them together.
“The person who enters your life is the right person for you”
The first law teaches us that we don’t meet anyone by chance . Every person who goes through our life does it to teach us something (for better or for worse) and to encourage our evolution.
“What happens is the only thing that could have happened”
The second law shows us how nothing that happens, or has happened, could have happened in a different way. Everything that happens to us has a meaning and an ultimate purpose for us.
“Whenever you start something that’s the right time”
The third law explains how everything accesses at the perfect moment, neither before nor after. When we are ready to welcome something new into our life, then it will begin.
“When something comes to an end, it ends”
The fourth law reminds us to respect the things that end. What is finished must be left and we must proceed enriched by the experience and teaching acquired.
Food for thought
Everyone is free to give a more or less spiritual reading, but what I would like to reflect on is that these laws are important teachings for everyone and offer us valid food for thought. Let’s see them in detail.
Law number one:
If I meet a person along my path, it is because I have chosen to go along that path . I did it because I liked it, because I believed it when I started it, because it would have taken me where I wanted to go or because events forced me.
Therefore I will meet people who have something to do with my choice . They can help or hinder me, but from each of them I can draw a teaching (be it positive or negative).
Law number two:
Everything happens for a reason and it’s perfectly right. There is no point in mulling over why some decisions have been more sensible than others or if some have led us off course. I have experienced what it does for me and what it does not. I have become aware of where I can and want to go and it is in that direction that thoughts and energies must be concentrated.
The past can no longer be changed, but if I choose to continue living in the wake of negative experiences I have made, I am consciously choosing my future.
Law number three:
Many times we crave a change, a turning point that brings us well-being and serenity. If, on the other hand, we are fine, we would like to stop the world and continue what we are experiencing indefinitely. Neither attitude is feasible.
It is not possible to return to feeling good, by magic, if we have not learned what made us feel bad and we have not treasured the experience and on the other hand, it makes no sense to oppose new things and changes for fear of losing what that we built . If a new beginning occurs, it is because we acted so that it could come true.
Law number four:
We must learn to respect the cycles. Every experience has a beginning and an end. In every story and in every relationship there are many new beginnings and many ends. It is an enrichment for us and for our journey, even if it is the norm that can frighten us most. We have learned to experience loss with a negative meaning . As if we were deprived of something that was ours and now it is no longer. If, however, I lose something, I also have the opportunity to set myself free for any news.
If we do not accept this last step we risk blocking all the others, we risk anchoring ourselves to pain and depriving ourselves of joy or stubbornly attaching ourselves to a joy that, at some point, will no longer be real, but only a memory that will prevent us to receive more.
In conclusion, the analysis of these universal principles allows us to understand how we can change the way if we realize that this does not belong to us or no longer reflects us . To do this it is not necessary to drag doubts, second thoughts and suffering with us for what did not go as we wished.
Experiences have taught us important lessons which, once learned, will always be with us.
“Don’t insist, the flower doesn’t bloom before the right time. Not even if you beg him, even if you try to open his petals, even if you shower him with the sun. Your impatience pushes you to look for spring; when you just need to embrace your winter. ” – Ada Luz Màrquez